dearZette

So it’s a random Thursday night and I have asked my wife to go to yet another event with me.  Sure she has spent time in the court all day fighting for safety in the streets of the District but at night I want her to spend time meeting folks and networking. Knowing that she would be attending this event with me tonight, my wife planned her day and an outfit change for the night.

Sure she wore a banging outfit to work and was killing them with kindness and a super smile, but when she stepped out with me that night she wanted to take the extra step.  The first time she did this I asked her why and she quoted our song from our wedding to me by India.Arie. “If I am a reflection of Him… then I must be fly…” she said without hesitation.

This is an important lesson for me. When I was younger I was prone to believe that women dressed for other women. She buys those shoes, clothes, and handbags so she can keep up with the Joneses. But marriage has taught me that my wife does this not for anyone else but rather so she can represent the union that is us. This has taught me to think twice about leaving the house ashy and in my ripped up shorts…because I too am a reflection of my wife.

So here is a tip, remember that you should be mindful of the way you represent your household in everything you do. Take the time to groom and adorn yourself in a way that shows you care about the rest of your family. Before you step out of the house take a look at the man in the mirror and see if you reflect the lyrics of Ms. Arie.