So I think that my friends and I have come to a conclusion about not only ourselves, but other women…we overanalyze every single thing. Plain and simple. I’m probably going to re-read this post and overanalyze what I wrote. I guess it’s just the nature of the beast. All of us could be world renowned scientists or detectives if we took the same amount of energy that we put into overanalyzing the asinine things in life and concentrated them in other areas of our lives. Even when I try not to overanalyze situations…I still end up overanalyzing why I’m not overanalyzing what I was trying not to overanalyze.
What’s interesting is that what we tend to overanalyze the most is our relationships with the opposite sex. Does he like me? Does he think about me? He hasn’t called me…is there something going on? Maybe he’s seeing someone else? He doesn’t open up enough to me…how can I get him to change? Is he attracted to me? What does he like about me? Dude…I can really see why the self-help industry stays in business…they feed off of our inability to just let things take their course. I get sick of my friends telling me I overanalyze…because those same heffas are somewhere overanalyzing themselves. *SIGH*
Change isn’t going to occur overnight…it’s going to take a conscious effort to limit the “over analytical” process. I can’t say for sure, but I don’t think that men overanalyze in the same manner in which we do. I’d like to make the conjecture that over analysis is firmly based in emotion and since it is perceived that being “emotional” is primarily a female trait…there lies the root of all evil…lol. There is someone out there right now overanalyzing that statement…STOP THAT.
I’m moving into this “bump it” phase in my life. Bump how he feels about me….bump him if he doesn’t call…bump him if he wants me to work around his schedule…bump him if he can’t open up and be real about how he feels…bump him if he’s not as is into me as I am to him…bump him if he can’t make time for me….bump it and bump HIM. Whew…now didn’t that feel good.
I’m making a pact today…I will no longer overanalyze anything (ok well most things…lets be real…about this shall we). I’m just going to let things flow and just be. Which is usually my preference, but when you roll with a bunch of over analytical broads (I love yall)…what’s the saying…”When in Rome…”
Jennifer says:
LOVE this and I made this pact to myself a couple of weeks ago. The greatest thing I have found though is that when it comes t the opposite sex, when you find the “one”, all the overanalyzing seems to go out the window. There are no doubts or instances that make you feel like you have to dissect
Jun 28, 2011, 4:39 pmD. Williams says:
A pact to be more conclusionary by nature might be a easier adjustment than just saying bump it. Why? Because your previous overanlytical state might still desire a outcome, whereas drawing your own conclusion on a subject reguardless of reality leaves no room for doubt. Men and women are different, as you will overthink things to avoid making mistakes and we wont take time to think and make a mistake as fast as we possibly can. The benifit that guys have is overtime through extensive training lol is that we might slow down just enough to make the right choice. Guys are pensive about their march madness bracket and Kobe vs. Lebron whereas women are pensive about everything. We keep it black and white even to a stubborn fault while the opposite sex sets up shop in the world of gray. A little more moderation benifits both genders, but in the female case making a decision and sticking to it even if it has no merits could benefit you from time to time. You would think that being so callous would have caught up to us as gender but while your still willing to fret we’ll keep winning like DJ Khaled.
Jun 28, 2011, 5:26 pmFlommalot says:
And you have understood?
Jun 28, 2011, 5:57 pmscotsexiquite says:
I can not participate now in discussion – there is no free time. But I will be released – I will necessarily write that I think.
Jun 28, 2011, 2:05 pmDanielle says:
I love this post. Don’t fight your nature. You think about things. That’s beautiful. The thing – - the key – - is not to worry. Why? Well..
“Do you have a problem in your life?” is a yes or no question with 3 possible answers.
1.Yes…. Can you do something about it? Yes- Then, don’t worry OR No- Then, don’t worry.
2. No- Then don’t worry.
THINK ON- thinking is sexy. Worry is the ugly part.
Jun 28, 2011, 8:47 pm